Marriage is often referred to as a union that involves three
rings- the engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering. Despite its
reputation, most people still aspire to get married as the desire to find a
life partner is inherent in humans. Personally, I believe that there is
someone out there who was made specially for me, and once I find them, we
will fall in love and get married, and only then will I feel complete. So,
what qualities should I look for in my future spouse, and how will I
recognize my perfect match?
Contrary to popular belief, physical attributes are not the most important
quality when looking for a life partner. As much as I appreciate a
good-looking partner, solely marrying for physical attraction will lead to
short-term pleasure and long-term regret. I have also come to realize that
handsome individuals are often vain and arrogant, which is a major turn-off.
Instead, I find humility attractive. A humble person will not boast about
their wealth, intelligence or achievements, but will appreciate other
people's abilities and accomplishments. They will also readily admit when
they make mistakes, which makes them easier to live with.
Effective communication is an essential quality of any solid relationship,
and it is even more crucial in marriage. Therefore, I would want my future
spouse to share their thoughts with me. I want to hear their dreams and
share in their struggles. Similarly, I will also need someone who is ready
to listen to me and is interested in knowing what is happening in my life.
There should be no secrets between us.
Life is full of ups and downs, and it is important to have a partner who has
a positive attitude and a good sense of humor. They should be able to see
the silver lining behind every cloud, rather than focus on the flaws in
every situation. A partner who is witty and can make me laugh will also make
me happier and more positive. Such a partner will encourage me to look at
life in a happier and more positive way.
Above all, faithfulness is the most critical quality that I would want in a
spouse. A faithful partner should genuinely believe that marriage is made to
last "till death do us part." They should be totally committed to our
relationship and willing to stay for the long haul, "in sickness and in
health, for better or for worse," as couples promise in their wedding vows.
I expect my future spouse to be someone who is not easily distracted by
other people, even when I have lost my looks. They should be a "one woman or
man" and committed to our relationship. In return, I promise to be totally
loyal and faithful to my future spouse.
Although there are many other qualities that make someone perfect spouse
material, finding such a person is difficult. Therefore, I believe that
instead of focusing on my requirements for the perfect spouse, I should
recognize my own imperfections and work towards correcting them.
In conclusion, marriage is not an easy journey, and finding the right
partner requires a lot of effort. It is important to look beyond physical
attributes and focus on qualities such as humility, effective communication,
positive attitude, and faithfulness. However, rather than focusing on our
requirements for the perfect spouse, it is essential to recognize our own
imperfections and work towards being the right partner. With hard work,
dedication, and commitment, we can build long-lasting relationships that
withstand the test of time. |