Friends are very important in our lives. Friendships are easily formed when
we are young and do not demand too much out of it. According to studies and
research, humans tend to form highest number of friendships at kindergarten and
primary level. However, one tends to have less friends as one grows older and
wiser. This is because we realize there are good friends and bad ones.
saying that a friend in need is a friend indeed is very apt in this scenario
because good friends are those who are reliable and trustworthy. at a younger
age, our demands are not too high regarding friendships as we rely mostly on our
parents, siblings and relatives for important things. The friends we formed at
this age are merely considered playmates rather than companions and confidants.
Thus, our expectations of them are not high.
More serious friendships are
formed when one enters puberty and achieves certain level of maturity. the
latter allows one to forge fellowship with those who share the same interests,
passion as well as similar moral and religious values. Thus, it is not
surprising to observe that in some Asian country, mature students at the upper
secondary level have friends of the same ethnic and religious backgrounds. At
the university level, it is even more apparent. Even the Ministry of education
has voiced concern over this phenomenon where polarization is prominent. The
Indians, Chinese and Malays hardly mix with each other and are seen usually in
the company of their own kind.
One of the main reasons for polarization among
university students is that as they reach a certain level of maturity, common
binding factors such as religion, customs and traditions play important role in
selection of friends or mates. In addition, since majority of these students
come from rural backgrounds where there is not much cultural interchange, they
feel rather awkward to forge friendships with students of other races. However,
this does not mean the students are racist or suffer from superiority complex.
Thus, the university should introduce more programs that allow cultural and
religious mixing and understanding of the other.
Nevertheless, in the working
world, a different scenario prevails. One finds Indians, Chinese and other races
forging stable and long lasting friendships. This is most probably due o the
fact that to be productive in one's work, one has to believe in team work. The
latter actually enhances the bond between the workers and eventually long
lasting friendships are formed. In fact, this situation has even led to many
inter racial marriages between the three major races. the products of the
intermarriages are very unique as they have friends and relatives from both