My mother used to say that it was better in the old days. Now that I am grown
and my mother is no more, I keep hearing myself saying that the old ways were
better. Is it fact, or just plain nostalgia tempered with a little
In those days, I had to go to a
phone booth to make a call. It was cheap to make a local call and a little more
expensive to make a long distance call. It
was inconvenient but saved us a ton of money as we didn't make many calls. With
the advent of home telephones and mobile phones, it is so easy to make a call
and we spend a lot of money every month for this 'necessity'.
The way we eat and treat food has also changed. Now, we can have meat
whenever we want, however we want it, but back then meat was reserved for
special occasions or for family gatherings. Nowadays, we have Japanese or Korean
cuisine at expensive restaurants. We work longer and harder to earn that money
to maintain our luxuries.
Weddings are different too. There is the modern wedding where wedding
planners take care of everything, and we curse the traffic and the traveling we
have to endure to make it in time to the opulent
dinner at some city hotel. Our clothes cost a bomb, and we buy expensive gifts.
In the old days, weddings were a three day affair where all family members
chipped in, had fun decorating and borrowed each other's clothes or even
jewelry. Cousins played at the river banks and snapshots were full of
spontaneity and real laughter. No one cared how much your gift cost, and
arduous trips were made happier by legions
of family members traveling together by train or bus.
Then, there was the old ways in school - the teacher disciplined you and when
you went home, the news would have reached your parents. Parents disciplined you
as well for making trouble in school. Today, the teacher is disciplined by the
overprotective parent and children call the teacher names to his or her face,
threatening a lawsuit if the teacher so much as bares his or her teeth. Ten A's
meant moral as well as spiritual superiority in the old days, not the reward of
rich children with a bottomless tuition budget.
The old ways may seem outdated but it cannot be denied that the old ways are
better in some ways.