We know that `No man is an island' and that we should have friends. A good
friend is like a precious gem. We do not live alone like a hermit. We need
others to appreciate, encourage, love and accept us for who we are. The benefits
of having a good friend are many and varied. There are times in everyone's life
when we need a friend to talk to, to lean on or just to have a company and feel
the benefits of having someone near.
Friends give meaning and satisfaction to
our lives. We need their encouragement and comfort when we are sad or
disappointed. We like to share our triumphs and achievements with them. What a
relief to have a friend whom we can call upon for help in times of crisis. A
friend in need is a friend indeed.
The benefits of having a good friend include having someone to talk to freely
and confidentially about any problems one may be having. The benefits of having
a good friend to talk to in the above sense also mean that it is having someone
to lean on and reach out to for support. When we are troubled, our friends lend
us their ears. Having a good friend to pour their hearts out could prevent many
depressed persons from taking their own lives or banning themselves or others.
Knowing that someone cares gives strength to the downcast friends to stand up
A good friend is someone with whom one is likely to share common interests
and favorite pastimes. Sharing activities such as these with a good friend can
alone give great pleasure. We laugh at our friends and we laugh with them.
Laughter is like a good medicine to our souls. We enjoy telling jokes to one
another. Laughter brings friends closer together. It takes away tension and
friction. Your good friend will also help you extend your circle of friends as
you may not know everyone whom your friend knows. It will be lots of fun to meet
new people who may one day become good friends of yours too.
A good friendship does not sprout overnight. It takes time and effort to
cultivate and nurture a relationship. For a start, we ourselves have to be a
friend first before we can have friends. We must acknowledge them and be
thoughtful of them. We should not look down on those who are less privileged or
successful than us. Acts of kindness strengthen a friendship. To begin with,
learn to remember your friends' names. A name is very important to someone. If
you don't take the time to learn someone's name, it indicates that you are not
interested in him or her. When someone remembers your name, it gives you the
feeling that you are interesting and important.
It is important to remember that there are times when it is important to be a
good friend yourself. Everyone needs their good friends at certain times in
their lives. We must remember that there will come a time where our good friends
need us and we have to ensure that we are there in every aspect described above.
A good friendship should be seen in this respect as a partnership in a sense all
about giving and taking.
A good friend will first of all listen in this respect and thereafter,
perhaps offer pieces of advice. It is likely that we can discuss the solutions
to such problems with our friends, and the old saying that `Two heads are better
than one' can effectively be applied. Very often, the simple act of listening to
a good friend can in itself bring comfort if not solutions to problems. This can
help to relieve stress and tension, and start the process of healing or simply
Your friend will also appreciate you keeping her confidence and not spread
gossip. By showing that you are trustworthy, your friend will trust and rely on
you. As a good friend, you should also be prepared to stick by your friend
through thick and thin as nobody likes a fair-weather friend. So don't be one.
Interestingly enough, as much as you want to be supportive to your friend,
you should not be seen as a pest. You may find this amusing but your friend
needs his or her space and time on his or her own; you too, should set
boundaries so that you get your time alone too. This will allow both of you to
discover things on your own and grow personally.
One important aspect of being a good friend is to accept correction from your
friends. Your best friend gets your back, and he or she cares enough about you
to correct you and point out your mistakes so that you can improve and be a
Do not have a big ego. Always be humble. If you give the impression that you
know it all, that you are superior, you make it hard for people to like you.
Compliment your friends and congratulate them on their hard work and
achievements, or express sympathy when they are in sorrow or if they feel
discouraged or down. Give strength to your friends by supporting them. Help them
to be stronger and they will give you affection in return.
A lasting friendship is built on trust and a spirit of give and take.
Friendship means helping one another as the saying goes, `One good turn deserves
another'. We must be thankful for having good friends. A friendship takes work
and is a partnership where both parties need to give and take for it to work.
Selfishness must be put aside and you will benefit greatly from your friendship.