Along the road from cradle to grave many of us get married. This
in itself can cause more emotional disturbance than all the other events
of our lives combined. Many factors make the difference between
marital bliss and having "an old ball-and-chain" but the most important
factor is probably whom we choose to marry. That is why I often
meditate on the qualities I would seek in my future wife.
To be honest, the first thing I notice when I meet a girl is whether
she is pretty or not. Long lashes and sparkling eyes do not cause
someone to "fall in love at first sight", of course, but few people go
round seeking ugly mates. I am no different.
Of course, I would also prefer to have a wife who is intelligent.
Some men have the stereotyped "dumb blonde" image of a perfect
woman. However, I know my life will be enriched by having an intellectually stimulating partner to share my thoughts with, and to offer fresh
insights to old situations. More importantly, a husband and wife should
be intellectually matched so that they can understand each other.
Sports and games and other recreational activities are fun and
foster closer ties. Who better to enjoy sports with than my wife? This
will draw us even closer together. A wife should, after all, be a true
friend whom I can have fun with and want to spend my leisure activities
with. So, my ideal mate will be someone who participates in the games
and sports I like or at least, be willing to learn them.
Often, quarrels between husband and wife concern other family
members. Your wife may be perfect but her parents may be irritating
beyond comprehension. There was, for example, an incident in City Center
where one man's mother-in-law came to stay. One day, she cooked and
ate his pet dog for dinner! So, I always say that one's future in-laws should
always be checked carefully before one makes decisions about marriage.
If you are dead tired after a long, frustrating day at work, a loving
wife who comforts you and listens to your problems can really make a
difference. So I would say, a sympathetic, caring kind of woman is the
only one with whom I would make any commitments for marriage.
Commitment is very important on her part, too. If a girl isn't prepared
to be faithful to you but she marries you anyway, chances are she's
going to run away and leave you one day, for your best friend, perhaps.
I realize that I have listed a whole string of qualifications for my
future wife. Well, if I can find all these qualities in one woman, I will
really consider her The Ideal Wife. However, chances are, with a girl
like that, everyone else will be trying to win her hand, too. So, I'll be in
for a tough time! Furthermore, as the proverb goes, "The best laid
plans of mice and men can fail". More than likely, I will meet a girl one
day, fall in love and get married. And even though she might not be
perfect, I'll love her, and, through the years, that might just be enough.